if you can’t stand the heat

We have  heard the saying. “If you can’t stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen.”  I must say, I love this saying. For me it holds so much truth.

Let’s start with the heat.  Who really likes the type of heat they are talking about here?  They are not implying the cozy heat of a fire pit.  Nor the heat we find under the covers with our loved one.  They are talking about that heat you can’t get away from.  That heat that takes up your whole body and makes you sweat.  Life has given me a lot of heat. I have cried deep tears filled with pain and anger.  I am sure most of us have.  We have all felt that moment where we just want to run.  Run from the pain of childhood, the responsibility of parenthood, the frustration of a friendship and the ugly pain that marriage can bring us.  The heat makes brings us to a point of forgetting all that is good.  We get so hot, angry and afraid anything  that is  good is outside of the proverbial kitchen. We don’t remember what it felt like to feel content, joy and even hope.

But the saying doesn’t stop there.  It is very clear.  If you can’t stand the heat, you must leave the kitchen.  And what does that hold?  For me, kitchen has everything good.  The kitchen holds life. I create in the kitchen.  I make sweet treats for my family and  friends. The kitchen is where my girlfriends and I share a glass… or bottle… of wine and talk, laugh and cry.  The kitchen holds  a storehouse of food.

If life is there, is this a place I want to leave?  Is the heat worth it?

I would love to shout a confident yes.  I would love to say that when life gets hard and too hot to handle, I see all the good and do not mind the heat.  The fact is, I hate the heat. I hate the moments that make me sweat… the moments that make everything in me feel weak and terrified.  However,  I know that if I run and give up on the scary and difficult moments, then I will miss out on the life giving moments.  I have tasted and seen the fruit of my labor.  I have worked through the weakness, the fear and the pain and  have seen it turn into strength, courage and joy.

The heat, well that sucks.  But everything that is yummy and topped with frosting…  that comes out of the kitchen.  I guess I  am not leaving.


  1. cristinspriggs@yahoo.com · February 22, 2012

    Well, you got me again. You know my journey and this just kinda hit me. I will never hear this saying without thinking of its full meaning. I am a kitchen dweller! I dont like the heat but I am willing to stick it out. I love this!!!

  2. Anonymous · February 22, 2012

    I am glad your are not leaving the 'kitchen' Staci…this is so beautifully written. How I love your life process…Thank you for sharing. Ar

  3. RainCityGirl · February 22, 2012

    Yes, the heat is worth it even though it can get unbearably hot sometimes. You are right to stick it out and stay in the kitchen. Love your photo and your words…………..x

  4. Megan · February 22, 2012

    Your words are powerful. I have seen you withstand much heat with grace and strength!!! You are an inspiration, girl! A gift to me and to others who will read this!

  5. a view from a brown dog · February 22, 2012

    You are such an inspiration, your words are strong and ring true for all of us. I like most of us don't like the heat either but it sure does make us stonger, doesnt it. Love the perspective of your photo too, you are really rocking this space and i am very much enjoying my visits here 🙂

  6. Deb · February 22, 2012

    Love this image!
    Beautiful post. This is my first visit to your blog Staci ~ I came here from Flickr. Looking forward to stopping by again.

  7. Anonymous · February 23, 2012

    Oooo… love this Staci! So, so true – never thought of it like this before. We missed you last night! Praying for you! xoxox Kristin

  8. Shawna Lemay · February 23, 2012

    great post Staci! lovely. full of truth and beauty.

  9. Staci Kennelly · February 23, 2012

    Thank you, ladies! You are so encouraging. xo

  10. susan · February 23, 2012

    Love you and love being in your kitchen!

  11. Staci Kennelly · February 23, 2012

    Thank you so much! I am glad I am not the only one!

  12. Sam · February 24, 2012

    I needed these words so very much this week Staci….and probably will at some point next week too. Thank you.

Thank you for your kind words.

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