greet yourself

Feelings are wonderful, glorious things. Some are easy to love: joy, hope, happiness, peace. Some take time to learn how to love: confusion, apprehension, remorse. Some are hard to see how or why we ought to love them at all: grief, abandonment, fear. Still, they can be, if we allow them and if we are brave enough to feel them, wonderful and glorious things. Confusion can become curiosity, remorse can become a lesson, grief can become love for what was, is, and is to come.

However, some of us don’t allow our emotions to be felt fully and allow them to teach us and reveal their mysteries to us. Some of us were taught at an early age – either by our guardians or by our own mind trying to protect us – that feelings are dangerous. Even the feelings that bring us joy eventually dissipate, so to deeply feel any emotion fully, deep down in our soul, is a dangerous thing. We go through life experiencing it with a stretched out arm, keeping feelings far enough away that they don’t take us over, but close enough to barely taste what could be. Instead of completely feeling the sadness, loneliness, and pain of a loved one’s death, we comfort others in their sadness, only allow death sting to touch us while watching a movie, or simply ignore it all and stuff the feelings as deep and far as possible. We don’t allow it to get deep enough so that we travel through grief until we can appreciate life and treasure the small divine moments it brings us. And while it is easy to see why someone may push the negative feelings away, even if the journey brings good things, what is heartbreaking is that once we start to stuff and hide our emotions, all emotions begin to hide from us. Suddenly, great moments of elation become gentle happy moments. They aren’t bad, we just don’t feel the magical euphoria down to our toes. We keep joy so close to the surface to not allow it to overcome us, that the memory of it disappears with a night’s sleep.

I lived like this. I held emotions far from my soul, which lead to holding others far from my soul, which eventually lead to forgetting who I really was and really wanted to be. I compartmentalized feelings and emotions until there were pieces of me. Through therapy and hard work, I began to become integrated in my thoughts, feelings, and heart. That doesn’t mean that the work is over. To embody life, one must be thoughtful and purposeful.

One practice to help me fully embody life is prayer beads. I chose to buy a necklace so that I could wear it on days I knew I was wanting to push emotions and experiences away. My prayer beads are made of wood and stone beads. The weight of the necklace reminds me to hold and treasure my emotions and experiences and not allow them to quietly pass by without leaving the lesson and peace they were meant to bring. There are thirty stones on the strand, the number of seconds I like to soak in my moments. While living my day I will pause when something exceptional has happened; a genuine smile from a stranger, a kind word from a loved one, a butterfly circling my body until it flutters away. I will start with the top stone bead and think about and treasure the divine moment. I will take a deep inhale, taking the moment in fully, and then a slow exhale feeling the emotion sink into my body allowing my whole self to experience the emotion. I continue to do that with each bead until I have experienced the moment fully, allowing a simple second to embody me, and soak into my soul and heart. And while I will do this exercise with positive, or safe, emotions quickly, I am beginning to do it with some of the harder emotions as well. Just the other day, my heart was breaking as I thought of my brother that passed away this summer. I took my prayer beads between my fingers and thought of him. With each touch of the bead and each dedicated breath, I remembered him. I remembered things that brought me joy and things that brought me sadness and pain. I let it all soak in, feeling it all down to my toes. And while this moment didn’t leave me with the same exuberance that the moment of the butterfly brought me, it did empower me and bring hope. You see, I not only survived my moment of grief, I thrived in it. I felt a connectedness to those who have gone before me. This moment of painful death brought hopeful life.

It can be a fearful thing to travel an unmarked road, a path we haven’t had the courage to journey down. Whether you muster up that courage today to find a way to feel it all and breath it all in, or you begin to entertain the idea to explore your emotions fully, I hope you find a practice that helps you embody your whole self. While I cannot promise an easy journey, I do know what you will find- your beautiful, wonderful, and magical true self.

All the Hemispheres

~ Hafez

Leave the familiar for a while.
Let your senses and bodies stretch out

Like a welcomed season
Onto the meadows and shores and hills.

Open up to the Roof.
Make a new water-mark on your excitement
And love.

Like a blooming night flower,
Bestow your vital fragrance of happiness
And giving
Upon our intimate assembly.

Change rooms in your mind for a day.

All the hemispheres in existence
Lie beside an equator
In your heart.

Greet Yourself
In your thousand other forms
As you mount the hidden tide and travel
Back home.

All the hemispheres in heaven
Are sitting around a fire
Chatting

While stitching themselves together
Into the Great Circle inside of
You.

 

My friend Melissa is also sharing her thoughts about embodiment on her beautiful blog.  Click to read more and be blessed.

6 comments

  1. Andy Kennelly · July 23

    So beautiful!

    • Staci Lee · July 23

      Thank you. x

  2. Clara Barnes Link · July 23

    Very moving. Where did you get your beautiful prayer beads?

    • Staci Lee · July 23

      Thank you. I bought them from an Esty shop. I went to find the link for you, but sadly the store is no longer on Etsy. There are many stores on Esty like it. If you search for “prayer beads” or “prayer beads necklace” there are many options. I hope you find something for your practice.

  3. Amy Bader · July 24

    Thank you for this moving post friend. It was special and I am grateful you share this window into your process. xo

    • Staci Lee · July 24

      Thank you for your kind and encouraging words! xx

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