I have been thinking a lot about friendships and loving others. One thing I am certain of is that we can only love others as well as we love ourselves. In fact, I have noticed that when someone is cruel to me it is saying more about their heart and less about mine. And when someone is good at loving others it is usually because they are good at loving themselves.
“For if I am to love truly and freely, I must be able to give something that is truly my own to another. If my heart does not first belong to me, how can I give it to another? It is not mine to give!”
“If I love my brothers according to the truth, my love for them will be true not only to them but to myself. I cannon be true to them if I am not true to myself.”
In order to love myself better, or anyone better for that matter, I must spend quality time with me. I must learn what makes my heart sing and makes my heart break. I am enjoying this blessing by John O’Donohue right now.
May you recognize in your life the presence, power, and light of your soul.
May you realize that you are never alone, that your should in its brightness and belonging connects you intimately with the rhythm of the universe.
May you have respect for your individuality and difference.
May you realize the that the shape of your soul is unique, that you have a special destiny here, that behind the facade of your life there is something beautiful and eternal happening.
May you learn to see your self with the same delight, pride, and expectation with which God sees you in every moment.
How are you doing when it comes to loving yourself? Or, how O’ Donohue put it, your self. That space does a lot for my heart. I am mine. I belong to me and it is important if I am to love others well, to love myself well.